Values at Work

Values are those beliefs that we give weight as humans. Each individual has his own set of values in different areas of his life. What are the most important traits that you put so much weight when it comes to relationships, money, work, parenting and leadership?

I have said this many times, that one cannot claim that he knows himself absolutely enough. We would never know how we will react unless put in a circumstance for the first time. The proof of the pudding is truly in the eating, isn’t it? Thus, there is a need for us to be subjected to an entirely new experience to test how we will react or respond to the stimulus.

I have recently been confronted with a situation that tested my personal values.

The title of this post is “Values at Work” for it carries a double meaning to it: my set of values were put into action and it was tested at the workplace too.

I value respect for humans, period. It doesn’t matter whether one is a company president, a messenger, a clerk or a security guard or a less privileged garbage man. Every single human being deserves to be respected. And I wonder how some people can sometimes be so full of themselves that they can sometimes be so focused on their own grandeur to the detriment of how they should actually be treating the other beings.

To me, position or rank only defines a person’s role in an organization. I still believe that respect is accorded to the person, not the rank. For if one respects every single person equally, the rank becomes irrelevant for gaining respect. How can you give “more” respect to one over the other? Isn’t that respect is absolute? Less respect is disrespect.

Respecting people includes respecting how they feel. Every single human being has the capacity and right to feel the whole spectrum of emotions from anger, sadness to jealousy and envy and joy and love. I believe that every person has the right to be angry or mad; but that doesn’t give anyone the license to be rude.

Dignity of a person, rich or poor, must be preserved. And either I contribute to building that or destroying it.

I’m very glad that I have proven once again that I have been gracious in the face of a circumstance that would have hooked anyone to be less dignified.

I’m proud to say that I’ve responded well. I stood up for my rights without having to be like the other party. I stood tall and walked out of the jungle with pride intact knowing that I have a bigger heart and more giving nature.

I’m proud that I do what I preach. I know that I won the best battle this round for I have demonstrated to my followers and most especially to my children, my set of values at work — even without anyone watching my actions, reading my mind nor feeling what’s in my heart.

After all, the biggest victories in life are those that are won in private. I know who I am, what I am capable of and what I have done and didn’t do. After this incident, I won not only the respect of my family and friends but most especially, my own self’s.

Parenting — a Joyful Responsibility

Parenting — a Joyful Responsibility

Parenting to me is a stewardship of young lives, empowering them to becoming who they are destined to be.

Parenting is not deciding for our children but rather helping them decide for themselves.

A parent is a leader and a light.

A light is a beautiful image.  It softly touches us and is easy to follow.  We can see the light even when afar.  A light serves as a guide that anyone can decide to follow.  It attracts us to get close to it.  And a light is most important during the darkest moments.

I am a single parent of four children.  I am the breadwinner and I raised them consciously, knowing what I want for them.

Knowing What I Want for My Kids:

This does not mean that I decide what profession or degree that they will take.  Or where they should be or go.  Knowing what I want means that I know exactly what kind of individuals I want them to be — responsible citizens, conscientious Christians, respectful children, with high emotional quotient, principle-centered leaders.

EMPOWERMENT — What it is and what it’s not

Empowerment is giving the power to decide and to act.  It’s not commanding; nor manipulating someone to do something or to act because of fear.

Empowerment is equipping my children with the tools to succeed.  It is helping our kids to have the courage to decide on their own and teaching them how to consider the pros and cons.  It is immersing them in principles that they will imbibe so that they have the inner compass 24-7, everyday, everywhere, with or without me, even when no one is watching.

I’m blessed that I realized EARLY ENOUGH that I will not be with my kids all the time.  I cannot watch over them every moment of the day and night to protect them from external forces, from people who would intentionally or unintentionally want to harm them; from personal mistakes and wrong judgments; from hurts and harms.  I cannot tell them not to do the wrong thing because “I will get angry or get hurt” because that could be sending the wrong message that “it’s ok as long as mom doesn’t know. What she doesn’t know won’t hurt.”  I didn’t resort to punishments because I can’t punish if I don’t know.  This would encourage my kids to hide from me. And so I decided early on as a young mom then, that I should help them acquire the “internal compass” to guide them in every challenge and victory; pain and joy; rejection and acceptance; hurt and love.  So that they will decide on their own TO DO THE RIGHT THING ALL THE TIME.

I told them, “I don’t want you to do things because you want to please me.  Nor do I want you not to do things because I will get angry.  I want you to do things because they are the right thing to do and they are what is best for you.”

Internal conflicts and dilemmas can be avoided if one is clear with principles which are templates for moving towards a successful and happy life.  There is no conflicts if one lives by integrity.

In the end, they will be comfortable with oneself; be able to build genuine friendships; be self-assured to the point that they can laugh at their own mistakes; be humble to say “I’m sorry”; be confident to take on challenges; be generous with their time, praises and resources; have genuine relationships with God and have a happy, healthy life.

This site will discuss the principles that have worked for raising 4 unique individuals.

Welcome and I hope you will find my articles helpful in raising your kids, running your household and empowering children and achieving financial freedom at the same time.

I will include principles, anecdotes, experiences and tips.  I hope you will enjoy reading and I welcome your comments and questions.